Ithaca Lawyer How to Remove The Block to Living a Life You Love

Head Stuff Can Be Daunting!
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I believe the majority of people are their own worst enemy. What you say to yourself in your head daily is probably far worse than anything anybody has ever openly said to you.

The Dis-Ease of Constant Incessant Worry

Our worry over the future (future fear), lack of confidence (faith), and self doubt keep us stuck in a living limbo pattern. We are the plane running out of fuel, just hovering in place around and around. When our predominate thinking reinforces these patterns, we suffer from a lack of belief in ourselves. We hold ourselves out to be completely incapable. Incapable of change, incapable of improvement, and incapable of success.

These negative feelings of worthlessness all have the same essence at their CORE.

The One Main Obstacle

The one main obstacle, this single universal block, is the FEAR of FAILURE. The opponent inside is far more formidable than anyone outside of us. When we seek to remove or reduce or to quiet this inner critic, then flow (and change) comes easy and natural. We become magnetized to success in direct proportion to this reduction of fear. Remembering that ABUNDANCE is our birthright.

Filled on the Inside

We are not empty vessels. In fact, we are much like acorns. We have the seeds of greatness instilled within us at birth. They merely await our nurturing. Nature is abundant all around us but requires care to meet it's natural potential.

Three Prerequisites to Growth

There are only three prerequisites to our germination and growth. They are self love, self care, and self appreciation. In fact any relationship will grow by these factors. You must give them to yourself first before you can fully bestow them on anyone else. Like the oxygen mask on the plane, help yourself before you can help anyone else.

What is FEAR?

Fear is self punishment, and that it why it holds us back. The battle with fear can end or continue moment by moment. Understanding the voice of fear in all it's forms, yes fear has many disguises. It is not always obvious and in your face. It is subtle and quiet. It emerges through our feelings of self-doubt and indecision.

When you feel lesser than, that is fear. When you feel greater than, that is fear as well. Anytime we minimize or maximize ourselves or basically judge ourselves and our actions in relationship to other people that is a form of fear. We decide in that moment not to express our true nature. Who we really are, not pretending to be or trying to be something or someone we are not because we feel we are not good enough, smart enough, tall enough, pretty enough, or whatever. We feel we are just not enough for ourselves or for the world.

On some level this is a slow suicide of sorts. These thoughts of self judgment slowly and deliberately quash our hopes and dreams of ever obtaining or achieving what we want or who we wish to become.
Not for others but for ourselves is the true growth we seek. Growth and transformation that is meaningful to us.

Standing Up to Fear

Courage is not the elimination of fear but the courage (the fortitude) to face it head on. To first realize we have met the enemy and it is facing us in the mirror. The true key is taking action. Taking calculated action steps, day by day, even if they be just baby steps that move us further along to meet our unique set of values and goals quiet fear. Fear dissolves in the face of self progress following self reflection. It stands aside, it is frozen by this march, this building, this acquisition of the new future. Building foundation upon action leads to self respect. The respect of self is caring, loving, and appreciating yourself all combined into one.

Always consult with an attorney about any criminal or non-criminal charges you have pending to discuss your options and/or defenses. I am an attorney, former chiropractor, coach, advisor, and professional speaker.

My online materials include over 500 + blog posts, dozens of articles, and over 500 + informative videos on my youtube channel. I have authored and co-authored numerous books and articles on law both universal and man-made.

I was selected by Super Lawyers as a Upstate New York 2013 Rising Star in DWI/DUI Defense based on my experience, contributions, and professional standing.

http://www.ithacadwi.com

newman.lawrence@gmail.com

607-229-5184

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Early Beginnings About Me and My Journey From Brooklyn, New York

My life has been one amazing journey. I began as a street kid from Brooklyn, NY with a great many dreams. I was that daydreamer, lost in my head. Wishing I had what everyone else had. Wishing and praying that my life could be, and would be better sometime in the future. My dad was a prison guard, and my mom was a waitress so money was always tight. I got my two older sisters hand me downs. I wore shoes stuffed with paper, girls jackets, rode a girl bike, and had everything from someone else's kid. 

I lived in an attached brick duplex home with thin walls. We had families below us and on both sides of us. Five people sharing one shower in a tight apartment. When the power blackouts occurred in the summers it was a great big party of watermelon, heat, and hanging out. During the colder months you heard all the domestic violence, only back then it wasn't called domestic violence. I could see the World Trade Center from my block of Brooklyn (Glenwood Road and Farragut) and loved going to NYC.

In 6th grade I tested in the 11th and 12th grades for reading and math. I was offered a spot in the SP (special program) where I skipped 8th grade and did three years of middle school in two years. I graduated South Shore High School in June 1978 at the age of 16. On October 19, 1978 of that year I turned 17. My whole life turned upside down two days later when my father died of a massive heart attack while working at the Arthur Kill prison facility in Staten Island. He was only 51. To say I was devastated would be minimalizing the event.

Wondering and Wandering

I went through a year and a half of wondering and wandering. Mad, hurt, and angry I just was wasting time and as a consequence my life. Hanging out with people who were going absolutely nowhere good I decided to leave Brooklyn, and have a fresh start in Florida. 

I began Broward Community College in Davie, Florida in 1980. I finished two years of prereqs in Biology, Chemistry, and Math with almost a perfect GPA. I was given an early acceptance to a dual degree program at the National College of Chiropractic in Chicago, IL in 1982. Over the next three and a half years (with full time summer school) I earned a B.S. in Human Biology, a Doctorate in Chiropractic, and a Post- Graduate Certification in Acupuncture. The year was 1986, I was 24 years old, and I moved back to Florida. I passed the Florida Chiropractic exam in April of that year, and set up my own solo practice as a Chiropractic Physician in Lantana, FL.

My Chiropractic Years

Over the next 10 years, I grew one of the busiest holistic healthcare practices in Palm Beach County. In addition, I got married, and had 3 kids. In 1994 ironically I severely hurt my back. I had two herniated discs, and was diagnosed with early spinal stenosis. So after a long period of deliberation I decided to sell my Chiropractic practice in 1995, and entered law school.

The Opportunity of Law School

I went to Nova SouthEastern University Shepard Broad Law School in Fort Lauderdale. At this time I lived 45 miles from the school. I finished Chiropractic and my undergraduate education with no internet or computers. I was going back to school at 34 in the age of computers, and it was an incredible opportunity for me. I had my first online class, used email, and Nova was voted most connected law school. My learning curve around all these bright young minds took off. I loved the law, and I finished the three year program in two years and four months by going to school full time in the summers. Also during this time period my wife passed her CPA exam, and we had a fourth child.

I completed my last four months of law school with a legal internship at the Gloucester County Prosecutor's Office in Woodbury, NJ. I passed both the PA and NJ bars in February 1998. I studied and practiced trial law in Philadelphia and NJ. I set up two offices, one in Center City Philadelphia and one in Cherry Hill, NJ.

Over the next eight years, I practiced trial law in the areas of personal injury and medical malpractice. I returned my family to Florida soon after that but my wife and I were looking for some real change...

I had been journaling for years. A student of Julia Cameron, of the Artist's Way fame, http://www.theartistsway.com/ , she advises walking everyday and then writing three pages. I have written thousands of pages over the course of the years. The walking every morning helped me to appreciate and be grateful for nature and really have time to self reflect.

Ithaca, New York came about as a result of that gratitude for nature, journaling, and self reflection.

Always consult with an attorney about any criminal or non-criminal charges you have pending to discuss your options and/or defenses. I am an attorney, former chiropractor, coach, advisor, and professional speaker.

My online materials include over 500 + blog posts, dozens of articles, and over 500 + informative videos on my youtube channel. I have authored and co-authored numerous books and articles on law both universal and man-made.

I was selected by Super Lawyers as a Upstate New York 2013 Rising Star in DWI/DUI Defense based on my experience, contributions, and professional standing.

http://www.ithacadwi.com

newman.lawrence@gmail.com

607-229-5184

Reviews of Larry Newman:

http://www.avvo.com/attorneys/14850-ny-lawrence-newman-530905.html

Ithaca DWI Lawyer by Choice NOT Chance

Lake Cayuga, Wow! This is Ithaca, NY.

Did I choose Ithaca or did Ithaca choose me? 

I ponder that question often.

Do we ever feel called to a place?

I feel called to the two professions I have been privileged to practice. I felt called to be a chiropractor and an attorney. Not like hearing voices in my head but more like an intuitive feeling. You know that you know that you know that something is right. When I pray now, as a older, mature (sometimes), and wise man I pray for guidance not stuff. G-d please guide me, give me my next direction, my next challenge, use me.

Foilage in Spring and Summer is Unbelievable!

After years of journaling, I wanted a more authentic life. I wanted to pick a place. Not because of family or roots but one that felt truly chosen. To me, that meant being in a more natural area (less asphalt more trees). I wanted a radical change of my environment. I was ready to escape suburbia, and big city practices. I was tired of the parking, the masses of people, the traffic, the disconnect, the running from place to place, the rat wheel, and the mindlessness. 

Ithaca is Transformational

My wife, and I now take long walks together. In fact every Sunday, we take what has become the Sunday Walk. Growth as a couple after 27 years, 4 kids, and multiple careers is another blessing that I never imagined moving here. In fact it is a part of our life's routine, walking and talking and observing flowers and trees. Sounds pretty corny, I think that Ithaca is very fertile for not only things to grow but people and ideas as well.

Now not everyone "gets" Ithaca. It is not heaven, merely a nice city nestled here in the Fingerlakes. I can appreciate it in contrast to so many other places I have lived, and so many more places I have visited. Ithaca is merely relative. My closest friends advised a psychological evaluation when I told them I was moving here. Why would you leave the paradise of South Florida? Why would you leave all of this? The swimming pools, the hot weather, the resources, the simple flat roads, the brand new homes, the shopping, and the abundance of money. Why indeed?

Well it now eight years later... I am an Ithacan.

Always consult with an attorney about any criminal or non-criminal charges you have pending to discuss your options and/or defenses. I am an attorney, former chiropractor, coach, advisor, and professional speaker.

My online materials include over 500 + blog posts, dozens of articles, and over 500 + informative videos on my youtube channel. I have authored and co-authored numerous books and articles on law both universal and man-made.

I was selected by Super Lawyers as a Upstate New York 2013 Rising Star in DWI/DUI Defense based on my experience, contributions, and professional standing.

http://www.ithacadwi.com

newman.lawrence@gmail.com

607-229-5184

Reviews of Larry Newman:

http://www.avvo.com/attorneys/14850-ny-lawrence-newman-530905.html